Dearly beloved, we’re gathered here today to complete this thing also known as⦠a period finale! Yes, it really is true, this episode marks the end of absolutely the smash hit that has been S2 of
Wait, So Is This A Romantic Date?
And celebrate that finishing, who more straightforward to come-on and talk about the joys and positive results of a lengthy length crush, than actor and queer person Elise Bauman? You will identify Elise from life’s delightful queer xmas rom-com which come out just last year,
Underneath The Christmas Tree
,
but around these areas, she’s got another subject this is certainly nearly as vaunted: Drew’s girlfriend! Yes, you got that right, this sparkling twosome ended up being birthed through the great queer tradition: the long distance crush.
Exactly what will it be towards long distance crush that is so attractive to queers internationally? Will it be the family member scarceness of like-minded queers around you? probably the ability to flirt long distance requires a number of the stress off? The 3 of us enter into everything, AND Drew and Elise share some possibly TOO sexy information regarding their own relationship!
Not to mention you will find a game! Recently, I make Drew have fun with the video game that simply got more than Twitter and Tiktok for a couple fleeting weeks: «They may be a 10 but⦻ It’s a very good time, throughout!
PROGRAM NOTES
+ Practice Elise on
Twitter
and
IG
!
+
Browse Drew’s meeting with Jinx Monsoon
!
+ Enjoy
Bend it Like Beckham
,
it nonetheless rocks!
+ Johnny Sibilly’s upper thighs tend to be⦠without a doubt rather persuasive!
+ will likely Shortz is definitely the name with the NYT Crossword Editor!
*the more you know*
EPISODE
Elise
: right after which we got off the telephone, right after which we both hopped throughout the phone two moments later we are like, «Therefore, the border is actually closed, we are legally banned to really go throughout the line.»
Christina
: What i’m saying is, top among one of my favorite voice memos and even messages i acquired from Drew, i can not remember which type it came in, it had been want, «I made this plan of action nowadays the borders tend to be closed.» Yeah.
Elise
: Yeah, it had been a proper moment.
[theme song plays]
Drew
: Hi, I Am Drew.
Christina
: And That I’m Christina.
Drew
: And thanks for visiting
Wait, Is This A Date?
Christina
:
Wait, Is It A Night Out Together?
is an Autostraddle podcast delivered by myself obtaining the giggles, plus the concern that is on everybody’s lips, wait, was actually this a night out together?
Drew
: We’re at the conclusion of our very own 2nd period, and that I believe we resolved it, I think.
Christina
: Yeah, In my opinion i am only taking huge finale fuel, like when comedies used to be before a business market, and everybody would walk-in so there was actually an hour or so of applause because it was actually like, oahu is the finally, which is how I’m feeling. Though become obvious, no-one provides applauded myself however, hateful. Thank-you, thank you. Today i’m loved and presented. Drew, who happen to be you?
Drew
: Oh wow, forgot about that component.
Christina
: Yeah, correct?
Drew:
Possibly season three we’ll obtain the intros. I’m called Drew Gregory, Im an author for Autostraddle, a filmmaker, a queer trans lady. Do you know what, I think when we would another season I want to have a fun one I throw-in at the end.
Christina
: Ooh, anything spicy, you intend to jazz it?
Drew
: Yeah, There isn’t anything now though.
Christina
: Okay, keep them wanting a lot more, i believe that’s fantastic.
Drew
: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Christina
: i’m Christina Tucker, I am additionally a writer at Autostraddle, while the internet at large. A podcaster, a authentic gay black lady, and somebody who’s sensation very flashy below with this afternoon.
Drew
: Great, i am really glad that you are flashy and that I’m spicy, or at least I’m planning the chance that at some point I’ll be spicy.
Christina
: Yes you’re like, I am not sure, one 1 / 2 of the movie Dune, the spruce may come. Cool guide, ladies, she’s single. Anyhow, i actually do have a casino game for all of us to relax and play about hollowed day’s our very own finale.
Drew
: Incredible.
Christina
: Here Is The classic, and by classic After All a casino game that took over the internet and TikTok for two to three weeks, «They Can Be a 10, but⦻
Drew
: Ah, great.
Christina
: Now Drew, i’ll put down some soil policies for your needs, because i am aware you love a follow-up question.
Drew
: Great.
Christina
: When I say they may be a 10, they may be a 10 to you personally in any way that really matters for you, that might be actually, that could be mentally, this is just one you really feel is actually a 10, okay?
Drew
: Okay, okay, thanks.
Christina
: i really do not have any scenarios for just what more you in this person have been doing within dating existence, you are simply planning to need to go along with your abdomen and decide.
Drew
: Cool.
Christina
: okay?
Drew
: Yes.
Christina
: We’re going to place in which make that clear, right here we go. They may be a 10, but they clap when the plane lands.
Drew
: i felt like people were also remarkable with this particular, where it’s like they’re a 10 and this thing means they are choose a two, come-on.
Christina
: Yes.
Drew
: thus I’m gonna nevertheless provide a fairly nice eight.
Christina
: Yeah, I think that is reasonable. In my opinion eight may be the appropriate amount of cringe elimination regarding small motion. All right, this really is a fantastic start. Okay, they’re a nine nonetheless never ever text you initially.
Drew
: and I also can’t ask followup concerns?
Christina
: No, no, no.
Drew
: So I can not ask, really carry out they content myself when I text? I would personally say a five.
Christina
: Yeah, maybe not texting first actually, which is harsh.
Drew
: ever before is actually unusual.
Christina
: That’s crude stuff. Okay, these include a five nevertheless they drive that every errand you have ever had to operate.
Drew
: That’s very nice, but i possibly could constantly⦠If there were five, we’ll offer him a six.
Christina
: Sure, sure. But i understand you like a solo jaunt in any event, you like an errand run.
Drew
:What i’m saying is these days my personal girl Elise did drive us to an errand, and I was extremely thankful, in case that was the one thing she did we mightn’t take a relationship, that has been just an extra bit nice bonus.
Christina
: i believe that is fair.
Drew
: Yeah.
Christina
: All right, they’re a seven nonetheless they merely pretend to see work.
Drew
: begin to see the aspect of that that bothers me personally will be the pretend.
Christina
: Pretending, we realized it will be.
Drew
: it is not the maybe not checking out it. When they did not review could work it’s like, I’m not that, I’d end up being just a little, its like never? But it’s good, i possibly could get over it. Nonetheless they lie for me about this is really what’s weird in my experience, making sure thatshould go lower to a three.
Christina
: Yeah, proper, correct. They are a three nonetheless they get access to the criterion wardrobe.
Drew
: And carry out I get one go?
Christina
: and also you get accessibility, you benefit from that access, yes.
Drew
: I could have an excellent fling with this six.
Christina
: i believe you can. It actually was a three, but yeah, you are knocking it up to a six.
Drew
: No, no, no, that’s what i am stating, I’m slamming it up to a six.
Christina
: Gotcha, gotcha. I enjoy that. They may be an eight but all of their friends are straight.
Drew
: Okay, there clearly was some discussion concerning this, because In my opinion there was a you may need help. In my opinion We perhaps was actually from the opposing side of many of the Autostraddle team exactly who said that truly great to only have right pals. I wish to claim that truly good, it’s simply not living We lead. All right pals, that’s going to head to a-two.
Christina
: Yeah, i will need certainly to go along with you thereon one, i might merely find it only a little unpleasant, confusing.
Drew
: All straight pals?
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: if they are a new comer to queerness and so are planning to meet more queer folks, that’s unique of if they’re a proven season queer who is want, do you know what? I like becoming the only lesbian in my own friend group of directly folks.
Christina
: Yeah, i might feel the in an identical way whether or not it was actually a dark one who was actually like, «I don’t have any Black buddies,» i’d resemble, «What’s going on there?» Internally.
Drew
: We’re not in a network sitcom, we can not have a token individual.
Christina
: You don’t need to function as the token, you don’t need to do that to yourself. Okay, we three more. They’re a seven however they spend all their own time at the gym, consistently lifting weights along. I’m not sure what people do in the gym.
Drew
: All of their time. I assume it all depends about what matters as leisure time. I’ll state a five.
Christina
: Yeah.
Drew
: I’ll bump them straight down two.
Christina
: Bump all of them down.
Drew
: But that’s great. I assume it all depends mostly for me, which I’m not asking a follow concern, i am staying with five, but it is dependent if you ask me what truly matters as free time.
Christina
: Sure.
Drew
: Can we enjoy motion pictures collectively, or venture out for eating, usually spare time? Isn’t work time leisure time, or perhaps is it really like whenever we lack other pursuits?
Christina
: I hear you, I hear you.
Drew
: But I’ll stick with five.
Christina
: All right. They are six, but their mother is actually sexier than they might be.
Drew
: Oh, I don’t know to move up or down.
Christina
: i am aware, appropriate?
Drew
: I do not think I could ever before date somebody for their⦠It really is like easily’m not interested in some body in the first place, i am most likely not probably going to be matchmaking them.
Christina
: Correct.
Drew
: I’m not will be love, really, they could develop into their unique hot mom. I do believe I’d point out that they can be however a six, i am merely going to perhaps not refer to them as and that I’m probably contact their own mother.
Christina
: Yeah, i’m like it’s as you stay similar, but perhaps I go out along with you some longer than i’d necessary-
Drew
: which is an excellent point.
Christina
: to obtain some mom time. I don’t think you transform.
Drew
: i did so anything really terrible that we nevertheless think defectively pertaining to, that will be that somebody questioned myself on, and this had been when I was in university, and that I was not interested, I really was actually obvious about that, I was clear I becamen’t curious. But then she planned to end up being friends, and I also could inform that she mentioned she wished to be friends nevertheless was actually from location-
Christina
: She was hoping.
Drew
: Yeah. However the thing is that each one of her pals happened to be truly hot and cool, therefore I did stayed her friend being spend time with her buddies. I didn’t lay about my intentions generally speaking, however it however was not the nicest thing Used to do as a 20 year old.
Christina
: i am talking about unfortunately it really reminds me personally of that episode of
Gender in addition to City
in which Carrie’s matchmaking, i really believe its Justin Theroux, in which he sucks, but their household stones, and she is like, I can repeat this for somewhat. I am like, yeah, definitely, which could not.
Drew
: Carrie wasn’t trying to hook-up together with his household, which is the huge difference, nevertheless know very well what? It really is fine, we are all good.
Christina
: A hookup can look like something, I’m always saying that.
Drew
: That’s a really great point.
Christina
: your own last any, is actually a three but has a coastline house.
Drew
: I’m going to say an annoying sentence, but I decided to go to NYU.
Christina
: Horrible to express.
Drew
: something which sucks about myself, which that is attending sound like a very humble brag, since it is really probably a beneficial personality characteristic, however it sucks as someone going through the world. We went along to a school which is filled with wealthy individuals who have a number of awesome coastline homes, and all of these other stuff, and that I merely turned into friends with people who have been truth be told there on scholarships. Just, but primarily, I seriously, i did not socialize with folks that has beach homes.
Christina
: You didn’t utilize.
Drew
: Yeah, therefore I think if they’re a three however they have actually a beach household, they are most likely a two. The truth⦠I am not sure.
Christina
: Yeah, you merely are unable to make that jump to use the unwell beach residence second.
Drew
: No, it sucks. Exactly what i am really wanting is my buddies who will be relatively down to earth, great folks, progressively of them are simply just gonna continue steadily to have that new cash immediately after which get beach homes, and I’ll be able to go out using my great pals and start to become at a beach household. That’s the fantasy in which i possibly could obtain the coastline home.
Christina
: That’s the fantasy after your day, it really is brand new cash and a coastline house, which is all we’re interested in. You heard it here 1st people.
Drew
: I like new money.
Christina
: Love brand new cash.
Drew
: Love brand new cash. Yeah, which was a delight. I’d really, I’d really already been willing to perform that online game because it ended up being a thing on TikTok, very thanks a lot for making my personal fantasies come true.
Christina
: I thought it could be an enjoyable a person to do, also it was actually very enjoyable to come up with them.
Drew
: Well, should we proceed to the main part associated with few days, which is falling for folks who reside in various other urban centers. Basically distinct from long distance relationships, because long-distance interactions may start really into a relationship, they could continue on into a connection, this is actually the desire that queer people have to check out their particular location which they live and get, no, I am not going to flirt by using these people, i will carry on instagram.com and discover an individual who lives very faraway. And then we have a, i understand we constantly state a tremendously special visitor, however for myself this is a rather special visitor. Would you like to present your self?
Elise
: i might love to present myself personally. Was we the special visitor?
Drew
: you’re, yes.
Christina
: child, however.
Elise
: Great, wow, incredible. I am Elise Bauman, I’m an actor, I’m a queer person, and I also’m here now because I’m sleeping with one of many hosts.
Christina
: Guess which one?
Elise
: Yeah, the remainder podcast is only the market attempting decipher which host I’m sleeping with. I love that, it is like a murder secret but-
Christina
: there is option to know.
Elise
: There’s no way to know. Yeah, performs this generate me a nepotism infant? Is how the sector really works.
Christina
: Yes, that’s the way the sector works, babe.
Elise
: Wonderful, great.
Christina
: this will be it.
Elise
: Wow, possibly I could get a lifetime career from this.
Christina
: fingertips entered obtainable.
Elise
: Nepo baby to position, wow, great. I have usually wished to be a nepo child.
Christina
: I’m thus pleased.
Drew
: Yeah, I was just probably declare that for people who don’t know, really I am just destroying the murder puzzle of it all, but Elise and I have a commitment, and did begin matchmaking during the pandemic, and Elise stays in Toronto, and that I are now living in Los Angeles, which are indeed various locations, and therefore are in fact in numerous nations.
Elise
: they truly are without a doubt, they are indeed.
Christina
: And Drew, not to imply which you went against yours gut, but i really do feel as if you may be frequently somebody who states, exactly why bother with a lengthy length time? You can find folks here I’m able to date, so why do this to your self? You are sure that it will likely be difficult, you are sure that it’s going to be difficult, so why do this? And yet right here you happen to be.
Drew
: See, which is fascinating, because i’m like i usually liked to have a small amount of both, i simply believe I didn’t grab the cross country types maybe since seriously.
Christina
: possibly that’s it, yeah.
Drew
: But I always liked a lengthy range flirt.
Christina
: Genuine.
Drew
: therefore i believe this simply held heading. Whenever we started-
Elise
: Therefore, the solution, Drew, was not that I found myself merely amazing and it also had been personal if you ask me, and that it ended up being really certain if you ask me that I was only surprisingly enticing which means you merely smashed your entire rules while said, «i must have any particular one.»
Drew
: after all truly kind of the clear answer in a lengthier sense. In the same way this just held happening. And our close friends of this pod, Mal Blum and Gab Dunn, just who we accustomed accept, as some people may know, i’d be like, I’d be attempting to date folks during the pandemic in L. A. in addition to encompassing aspects of la. After which they’d generate enjoyable of me personally because i might sometimes just be similar, «after all, i really could just make an effort to date Elise Bauman.» I became usually, «I mean, {this person|this i